Saturday, June 7, 2014

To-Do List

So I've got a lot of plans, and now I have time to make them happen.  Some of these things  will take a long time to accomplish (saving up money).  Some, like painting the furniture, are fine to do now without worrying about what happens when I move.  But others, like getting a new couch, will most likely wait until I find my next apartment.  Don't feel like dropping a few hundred for something that then doesn't fit in the place. 

That all said, here's the list:

Bedroom
*Find a dresser
Paint ^ dresser and night stand “frosted orange” BHG paint
*Buy a new full mattress
Buy new bedding
Find/diy mirror
Paint baskets
Get amber casters for the trunk
Re-do old clock
Finish lamp

Long-term
Make a headboard
Get/diy chairs

Bathroom
Two more red and brown towels
Some kind of art above toilet (covering old nails from last people)
Get plastic baskets for other side of shower

Living Room
Window boxes
Terrarium for end table
Terrarium for mantle
Paint frame
Paint magazine holder
Plants on mantle
Get goo off of old glass bottle – vase
Paint desk – (up to K)
Paint coffee table – (up to K)
Finish entry table made of books
Art for above ^ table
Mail holder?
Paint blanket rack
New lamp?

Long-term
New couch & chairs
New coffee table
Throw pillows

Kitchen
Get glass canisters
Paint table and chairs – white, distressed (possibly light blue top)
Hook thing for towels

Long-term
New dishes
Get/find centerpiece/runner

Patio
Get/diy planters
Medium light vegetables
Shade vegetables
Medium light annuals
Make a small compost bin
Get patio set

Climbing plants

Old picture, but this is the trunk the amber caster wheels are going on.

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Charlotte

Thursday, June 5, 2014

Ten Tips for Daily Survival


The amount of stress in my life is absurd.  I don't say this in a pity-me way - it's just my reality.  So much so that sometimes I start looking forward to bed right after waking up.  And since I'm not terribly fond of living that way, I try to do certain things that make the day a little better.    
   
Obviously, these tips might not actually work for anyone other than myself.  But I'm cool with that.

1. Coffee.  Nuff said. 

2. Drink ridiculous amounts of water.  I still have a hard time following this rule sometimes, because I'm addicted to soda.  Specifically Coke.  I used to drink soda for every single meal, and I'd drink it any time I was thirsty or whenever I had a snack.  Water bottles were for the weak!  Ha.  Not so.  Since upping my water intake (still no where near enough), I just physically feel better.  Although (and I'm assuming this is short term), while I've been losing weight recently, I went up a size or two in pants after I started drinking a lot of water.  That's annoying.  Ain't nobody have enough money to go buy pants that you'll only need for two weeks.  ....hopefully two weeks. 

3. Talk to a friend.  I don't mean say hello.  I mean have an actual conversation with a friend.  Sometimes I just randomly pick someone and ask them how life is going.  It ends up becoming a good conversation.  I really think long talks with friends can make any day better.  Unless you're sick or pms or something and want nothing to do with anyone.  If that's the case... maybe don't talk.  Make up for it another day.  

4. I don't care what, but make sure to read something.  Aside from being an escape (particularly on rough days), it makes ya shmaaaart. 

5. Watch this (or something like it).  

6. Make it your mission to come up with at least one awful pun a day.  Puns make everything better.  They involve laughing no matter what, whether it's because they're really funny or because you're laughing at the fool who came up with it.  (This mean you could very likely be laughing at yourself.) 


7. Drink tea.  Green tea, black tea, bagged tea, loose tea.. just drink some.  

.........This post is making it abundantly clear that beverages are important to me. 

8. Be around people.  This tip was going to be something along the lines of, "interact with people," or "go for a walk somewhere that has people," but then I realized, it's not always easy or desirable to be around people.  I mean, I think it's ultimately a good thing because people are wonderful and most of them are nice and you get to observe other people.  Does this sound creepy?  I don't know.  But you know when you see people who are fussing over their baby because he or she sneezed, and you get to smile and be like, "first kid."  Or when people meet each other for dinner or something and you see their faces light up at the sight of each other.  You get what I'm saying?  I hardly get what I'm saying.  But people are great and being around other people is good.  Of course, let's be real, sometimes, if you're in the right mood, the thought of having to make small talk or even smile at a stranger is repulsive.  So maybe on those days it's best to go for a drive around populated areas or something.  (I did say these tips might only make sense for me. ;)

9. Music.  Listen to it. 

10. Pray (/the non-religious equivalent of praying).  I really suck at praying.  Like really, really suck.  Aside from not really having a deep understanding of prayer (just now beginning to get the concept of offering up suffering...), I just ramble.  I'll be all, "Thank you for (person) and (person) and (opportunity)."  

So it's a good start.  But then I'm like, "Watch out for (person) and please keep (person) safe.  And I guess also their families.  Protect (close friend).  I guess I shouldn't just pray for my friends, though.  That's selfish.  Okay, so also I want to pray for (random people).  Although.. why should I leave anyone out?  Can I just pray for everyone?  That kind of defeats the purpose though, huh?  Yeah, okay.  Never mind." 

Apparently, I should just be praying for guidance on how to pray.  But yeah, at least think of the things you're grateful for and/or some goals.  Just try not to be such a hot mess when you're doing so.  

(If you can't help it and you are a hot mess, just comfort yourself with wise words from Mindy.  That's what I do.)
 So yeah.  Those are the things I try to do so I can make it through the day without being in constant misery.  Good luck. 

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Charlotte

Monday, June 2, 2014

Weekling: W.4

For previous posts in this series, go here: Weeklings

Happenings


I know I've described the last two weeks as a mix of good and bad, so it's lame to do that for this week, too, but... this week was a mixed bag.  I lost my job for reasons related to health (all types of irony since my job was signing people up for health insurance...).  So that's slightly annoying.  I'm super nervous because I have a gazillion health things I need to take care of, and in two months when I am off the insurance plan, I really don't know what I'm going to do.  Probably I'll just end up moping and being like this: 


But, I should also try focusing on some of the good things about losing my job that way I don't wallow in misery 24/7.  One, I hated the job.  I liked that I got to talk to people a lot, but signing people up for mediocre health plans that are still too expensive wasn't fun.  It made me feel really, really bad.  Two, commuting an hour to two hours BOTH WAYS to get to a job that made me feel guilty was a major bummer.  It was expensive and worse, it meant I had no social life.  While going out with friends isn't exactly the number one priority at all times, working from 6:30am to 7:30pm is just not healthy.  Now that I don't need to do that, I have time to focus on other important things, like writing, getting back into the political work I like, and exercising (because a 23 year old shouldn't be gasping for air after walking up a flight of stairs).  It means I can make more time to go to daily mass or to protests or to meetings.. you get what I'm saying.  Don't get me wrong, I'm not dismissing the seriousness of unemployment, but while I'm looking for a job I'm going to take care of myself.  And I'm going to make sure that when I do get a job, it won't be one that consumes all of my time so that I can continue taking care of myself. 

Thankful for 

The two months of health insurance I still have left. 

Books I'm reading now 

Nothing new here.  smh.  Still working on The Twelve Tribes of Hattie, The Great Divorce, Divergent, and Little Women.  But hey, now that I have more time maybe I'll actually finish one. 

Best Kid Quotes

"Hiya, fellas!  I'm a big, fat boomer!" 
- Nine year old boy.  
???

Random

The Working Families Party endorsed Governor Cuomo for reelection.  Cuomo is basically anti-everything working class people need, so this was pretty pathetic.  This was the reaction the decision elicited from many a supporter: 


But, on the positive side, a lot of people are angry with the decision and if we take that anger and use it, it can turn into something wonderful and powerful.  So there's hope.  

If you don't believe me, just listen to Captain Hook.

To-do 

Instead of the usual links of cool projects, I'm going to write an actual list of things I need to do with the apartment/furniture and put it on this here blog.  Fun, exciting stuff, right? 

Links worth looking at 

A little feminism: 

A super on-point description of child abuse: 

Alan Rickman thanking JK Rowling for Harry Potter: 

The destruction of public education: 

Different but not unrelated: 

Some Pope Francis action: 

Maya Angelou: 
"There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you."
"I’ll never forget what she said: “Now tell me this — do you love the boy?” I said no. “Does he love you?” I said no. “Then there’s no point in ruining three lives. We are going to have our baby!”
What a knockout she was as a mother of teens. Very loving. Very accepting. Not one minute of recrimination. And I never felt any shame."

And an example of really wonderful parenting: 

Bonus



I'm doing an abrupt end here because tired.


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Charlotte






Wednesday, May 28, 2014

Phrases That Don't Make Sense



I read this article last week called "14 Shitty Sayings" on a site called Wait But Why.  It was glorious.  The author talked about some common phrases and how they either make no sense or just really suck.  I nodded my head as I read along.  I've thought about how unhelpful a lot of sayings are, but I've never been like, "let me gather the bad sayings and explain why they're bad in a post."  The person who wrote this nailed it.  For instance, s/he writes: 

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Why? Why, if someone fools me twice, should I feel shameful? And what kind of dick fools people twice? It should go, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, seriously get the hell away."  

Word.  I hate that saying.  Why am I wrong for giving people the benefit of the doubt?  You intentionally "fool" someone twice, you're the one who should be ashamed.  

Pair that with this gem:

"I’ll forgive…but I will never forget. Oh, won’t you? Well at least you forgave me, in that ominous vengeful way. Thanks for that."

Really, there's no point in forgiving someone if you're always going to hold what they did over them.  Or if you're going to forever associate them with their wrongdoing.  I hate this saying so much.  There's a difference between forgiving someone and acknowledging that they've apologized.  

The author also mentioned the saying, "I slept like a baby."  I'd also include, "It's like stealing candy from a baby."  Anyone who has had kids or has taken care of kids or has simply been around kids knows that 1. babies don't sleep well and 2. Stealing candy from a baby is hard.  Taking anything from a baby is hard.  Especially when it involves sugary sweetness.  There's pulling, stickiness, and screaming involved.  Not exactly something easy or enjoyable. 

I'd like to add to the list of shitty sayings. 

Before writing the phrases I can't stand, let me just clarify that I don't think you're a bad person if you say these things.  I say a lot of these things.  Except #14.  And usually when I say these things, I mean well.  I'm assuming that's true of most people.  But that doesn't mean the phrase makes sense, nor does it mean that it is the most sensitive thing to say in any situation.  So please, don't read these and be like, "I say this all the time!  Oh no!" or, "F you, I say this all the time!  It makes perfect sense!"  I've said most of these phrases, but that doesn't mean they aren't dumb.     

Without further ado, here are some other sayings that tick me off. 

1. The relatively new but much overused YOLO.  I don't dislike the overall idea of this.  It makes sense to "seize the moment" and recognize that this is your life and you should enjoy it.  I hate YOLO because of the way people use it.  "I'm gonna jump off the roof of this house into the pool twenty feet away even though it's dangerous and I could die because YOLO."  Nine times out of ten, when I hear people say YOLO, they're doing something that suggests they don't, in fact, understand that they have this one precious life.  You're yoloing wrong.

2. You can't have your cake and eat it, too.  I hate this saying.  I understand that it's normally used to say don't be greedy, and there is most definitely such a thing as wanting too much.  But I hear this phrase used all the time, and usually it's regarding someone who isn't being greedy.  Also, it's just a dumb saying.  Why would I have cake if I didn't want to eat it?  If you have cake in front of you, by all means, eat it.  It's kind of the point. 

3. Curiosity killed the cat.  Why on earth would you want to discourage curiosity??  Curiosity and wonder and questioning are wonderful things. 

4. Blood is thicker than water.  Not always. 

5. Welcome to the real world.  While I acknowledge that the world is not always the happiest place and it's often way too hard to function in the world, this saying is awful.  All it does is make young adults go into the world thinking there's nothing good coming.  And that they have to do bad/manipulative things to get by.  

6. He(She) had it coming to him(her)/What goes around comes around/Anything related to karma.  Oh, so all these bad things that are happening/have happened to me are my own fault?  K, thanks. 

7. It is what it is.  Again, what a pessimistic thing to say.  Might as well say, "This sucks but I have no hope that it will ever change so I'm going to not try and things will always be like this."  

8. He who can, does; he who can't, teaches.  To this I say one thing:   

  

9. Revenge is a dish best served cold.  Revenge is a dish best not served at all.  

10. Cut to the chase.  The only thing that bothers me about this is that when people say it, they're usually being exceptionally rude. 

11. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.  To an extent, and for a certain period of time, maybe.  Possibly.  But in almost every relationship, romantic or otherwise, it's usually better when you see the person. 

12. There's no such thing as a silly question.  Yes, actually, there is. 

13. Everything happens for a reason.  No, everything doesn't happen for a reason.  Do good things often come out of bad situation?  Sure.  But there's no reason kids are abused, people are killed in accidents, etc.   This kind of ties into #6 for me.  When people say this, it minimizes what you're going through.  Let me grieve or process without telling me there was a reason for this - don't worry, just because I don't think things happen for a reason doesn't mean I don't understand that good can come from bad things.  


And my absolute least favorite saying:


14. Money can't buy happiness.  You never hear poor people say this.  Obviously, money doesn't guarantee happiness nor can it buy things like true love or real friends.  You know, the whole, "the best things in life can't be bought."  Absolutely.  But money can buy things like food, shelter, and health insurance.  All three of those things make being happy easier.  It's hard to be happy at all when you can't afford to live.  So please, don't tell me that money doesn't buy happiness while I'm eating my Sugar-O's cereal in water or when I'm missing work due to some debilitating illness that could have been prevented with proper health care.  This saying is especially bad when a wealthy or middle class person says it as a response to hearing a working class person say they wish they had more money.  If you honestly think money doesn't affect happiness, you're privileged and likely delusional. 

See, they know.   


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Charlotte

Monday, May 26, 2014

Weekling: W.3

For previous posts in this series, go here: Weeklings

Happenings

This week was slightly better than last.  I felt a bit better physically, but have been exhausted pretty much every day.  (Which is also why I haven't kept up the daily mug shots.  I'll start that back up tomorrow.)  Right after the surgery, I worked my part time job because.. money.  (I couldn't work the full time because it involves a lot of driving.)  So I was in pain.  Then I was all, "You know what, I should just prioritize NOT being in pain and rest/take medicine the way I was supposed to and not work."  So that helped.  And then, like a fool, on Friday I jumped back into normal life instead of gradually getting back.  Walking and driving and talking when you haven't done it in days is not fun.  So now I'm wiped out.  But.  It was worth it.  My friend got married this weekend and it was fun.  Tiring, but nice.  Also, I caught the bouquet (well, another girl and I both caught it, but she surrendered let go right before I went to let go, so I win).  If the legend is true and the person who catches the bouquet is the next one to marry, I feel bad for all the other single ladies there because that's not likely happening any time soon.  But I digress.




My roommate and I were all, "Hey, this'd be a great time to find out how bad at taking selfies we are."  (Again, up until like, a week ago, I was NOT a selfie person.  I still wouldn't say I am, but I sometimes will participate.)

Pictures with the important people:

The groom.
The bride.

Other things.  The Monuments Men is my new movie obsession.  I love it.  I don't know that I want to read the book, but I really enjoy the movie.  I don't care what the critics on Rotten Tomatoes think.  

I went on a bit of a clothing purge this week.  A lot of people find that refreshing and liberating, I found it frustrating.  Whatever.  

Thankful for

My friends.  Also, little tv traditions.  I'm not a huge tv person (I prefer movies), but I really enjoy watching a tv show every week with the same people and the same meal.  

Books I'm reading now

Good Lord, I'm STILL working on The Twelve Tribes of Hattie, Little Women, and The Great Divorce.  I'm almost done with The Great Divorce.  And I added Divergent.  Because what else should you do when you can't finish your current list?

Best kid quotes

I was only at work two days this week, so really there's not much.  I did have a conversation with an eight year old girl that was somewhat funny?  She looked at a first grader and said, "Look how small her legs are.  I wish my legs were that small."  So, this is sad, not funny, because little girls shouldn't be fed ridiculous beauty standards.  So I faked confidence and was like, "girrrl my legs aren't small and I'm having dinner with a man tonight.  And even if I wasn't, pshhh, I like my legs.  They get me places.  And you're too young to worry about your looks OR about boys at all."  (This man I was having dinner with was not a boyfriend, but, like, she didn't know that.  Also, to put this into context, she talks to me about boys she likes a lot.)  But anyway.  The funny part.  She goes, "you're right.  I have lunch with boys in the cafeteria.  We sit in the table.  It's nice and I want to do that a lot.  It's like having a servant.  They all pick things up for you when you drop them in stuff.  You should go out with boys more often so you can have servants." Nice thinking, kid. 

Random


I woke up this morning feeling better than I did yesterday.  That's not saying much, but I was irrational and was all like, "I feel better than yesterday!  I'm healed!"  So then I decided it would be a good idea to reorganize everything.  Papers, clothes, the closet, old office stuff, you name it.  Of course, this made the pain return and now that's what my room looks like.  Excellent!  


I did start the lamp project I mentioned last week, so that's cool. 

To-do

I'm determined to do the compost bin this week.
I'm too lazy to think of anything else right now.

Links worth looking at 

Sorry, but I'm not even giving descriptions.  And I'm only posting three links.  I know, I'm slacking.  Because bed is a thing I need to go to right now.

Why Procrastinators Procrastinate - Wait But Why
Dead broke, not dead beat - Al Jazeera
Indoor Herb Garden Ideas - Creative Juice

The end. 






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Charlotte


Friday, May 23, 2014

Late Night Photo Dump of Me and Two of my Favorite Friends

Today was the first day since surgery that I've tried driving and walking for more than five minutes straight.  It was painful and exhausting and I needed to take my medicine a few times, which sucked because I can't drive to work with it :/.  BUT tonight was the rehearsal for my friend's wedding and it was fun.  Photographic evidence:

Fitting room selfie? eh.










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Charlotte

Thursday, May 22, 2014

The Hunger Games vs Harry Potter: Female Characters


For the entire series, go here: The Hunger Games vs Harry Potter

If you haven't read the books but want to, just know there are spoilers in this here article.

One of the best things about both the Games books and the Potter books are the female characters.  This isn't news.  Unlike in the Twilight books, the main female characters in these books are strong.  They've got interesting personalities.  They have purpose.  It's so good for girls (and just readers in general) to have strong female role models in literature.  I can't even wait to have kids just so I can read them wonderful books like these.  (..Is that weird?  Whatever.)

This probably isn't good form, but I'm going to declare the winner and then give my reasons.

It's Harry Potter.

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So Katniss is obviously a great female character.  I mean, she's the leader of a revolution, dammit.  She possesses characteristics that are generally assigned to men in literature (...and in society).  She's the breadwinner for her family.  In the absence of a father, Collins doesn't give us an eldest brother, she gives us Katniss.  Better yet, Katniss steps into this role and provides for her family by hunting.  She doesn't get a job in a bakery or a clothes shop.  Obviously, there's nothing wrong with either of those things, but with most female characters in literature and television being squeezed into one of those two professions (or very similar ones), it's nice for readers to see that women aren't limited in what they can do and how they can provide for their families.  

For the most part, Katniss is harsh.  She's cold and angry and stand-offish.  She cares deeply about the people she loves, but she's not a warm person.  (I'd argue that, despite how they sound, these characteristics aren't entirely bad.  They got her where she is.)

Aside from showing a degree of emotional strength (albeit a defense mechanism), Katniss is physically strong, as well.  Girl gets shot at in the third book and continues to try to defend a hospital filled with injured people.  Also, she, you know, wins the hunger games.  That too.  

One of the good things about Katniss' character is that Collins gave her layers.  Like Shrek:


Sure she's cold and hard, but she struggles with emotions.  Throughout the story she goes back and forth on whether she wants to be in a relationship with Gale or Pita.. or if she wants a relationship at all.  But it doesn't become a catty, immature love triangle (again, that can be found in Twilight).  She doesn't go jump off of a cliff to get either man's attention and she lie and cause problems with anyone.  She just feels the need to discover herself a bit more before being ready to be in a relationship - and before knowing what she can give and receive in a relationship.  Ultimately she chooses Pita, because he can make her happy.  Gale is angry and Pita is more caring, gentle, and optimistic.  Collins makes it so that Katniss isn't just a mad, cold woman, but she also doesn't get all googly-eyed over every cute man she sees, either.  It's important that she chooses a life partner consciously and for the right reasons - they work well with each other, balance each other, and can bring each other happiness - instead of falling for a man because he lusts after her. Personally, I think the former is more romantic than the latter.  And more sensible.  

Basically, Katniss is fierce. 

Her sister, Prim, is also strong.  She's a kid though, and her strength isn't fully displayed until the third book.  I love Prim, just like pretty much every other person who has read the books.  She's like, what, 14?  And she goes into a war zone to help heal people?  Word.  But I think Collins missed an opportunity to really create another strong female character with Prim by waiting so long to show us how impressive and brave Prim was.  I understand that novels can't fully develop every character and that Prim's main role in the book was shaping Katniss' personality and actions.  But I do think that there was room for more main female characters in The Hunger Games.  Of course, we have Joanne, Mags, President Coin (who isn't strong and wonderful, but fills a position that is normally reserved for men), etc.  There are a lot of interesting women, but they aren't main characters.  I can't really talk about Effie and the make-up teams because their personalities are shaped more by the class they're in than by gender, which makes sense as class structure (and indeed class warfare) is one of the central aspects of the trilogy.

The Harry Potter books, on the other hand, have no shortage of excellent female characters.  Rowling had seven books for character development, so there's a bit of an advantage over Collins, I suppose.  Maybe.  There are countless women in the Potter books, but I'd say the main female characters are Hermione, Mrs. Weasley, Professor McGonagall, Ginny, Bellatrix Lestrange, Tonks, and Lily.  

I love how Rowling incorporated so many different kinds of women into the series.  I think society pretty much demonizes women no matter what they choose to do (Stay at home moms "don't do anything," working moms "neglect their kids," etc.  Eye roll.), so it's refreshing to see such a wide span of women in the books.  

Hermione is a smart overachiever.  She's caring and brave and let's be real, Voldemort would still be alive if Ron and Harry didn't have so much help from Hermione; she figured out Nicholas Flamel, the basilisk, some of the mysteries surrounding the horcruxes and the deathly hallows.  If not for Hermione, Harry'd be dead and the series over at the end of the first book.  

Mrs. Weasley is a stay at home mom.  But that doesn't mean she's not smart and brave - she's also essential to the books.  Her strength lies in how warm and welcoming she is.  She provides a home for Harry several times throughout the series.  She treats him like her own, something he acknowledges he's grateful for.  Her home is always open to anyone who needs it (it's sheltered Harry, Hagrid, Tonks, Hermione, etc).  It's where the Order finds safety.  Mrs. Weasley manages to make even the filthiest and hateful places - 12 Grimmauld Place - a little more cheerful.  Through Mrs. Weasley, Rowling shows that all women, regardless of their vocation and calling, are instrumental in helping people and you know, destroying evil.  Anyone who thinks motherhood is easy or being a stay at home mom is equivalent to never working should take a look at Mrs. Weasley.  

Professor McGonagall is probably one of my favorite characters in the Harry Potter books.  One, she's sassy.  



Two, she's intelligent and dedicated to what she does.  She's gifted in her field and she's not scared to fight for what's right.  Also, she's old, unmarried, and without children.  Rowling so far has given us a know-it-all but save the day teenager, a stay at home mom, and an old, single, childless woman and - GASP! - they all have worth and are important to the cause.  They're all wonderful.

Ginny is fearless, Tonks is funny and skilled (..and hunts dark wizards.  What what.) and is a working mom, and Lily, though we never exactly "meet" her, is selfless and loving.  Bellatrix is not a Good character, but she's powerful and, like President Coin in The Hunger Games, it's nice to see women in roles that are almost always saved for men.

Rowling gives us the full spectrum of women.  They all have goals and purpose.  They're all strong, but they're strong in different ways.  Whether it's solving clues or keeping everyone fed, the women in the series are giving and kind and helpful to the cause.  Rowling shows us that women aren't to be defined as one vocation or one strength, and that's beautiful.

While both are a breath of fresh air when it comes to female character development, the Harry Potter series wins because it's got such a plethora of different kinds of women doing what they're good at in order to fight for Good.

Now, GIF central:



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Charlotte